9 Things that Immediately Make you Happier if you have a Disability
9 things that immediately make you happier if you have a disability
A perfect body, good health, money, adventure, fame, success: limitation or not, we all want it. The joke is that all of these things give no guarantee of happiness. Because no matter how cheesy it sounds: you get to luck out of yourself.
The good news is that, unlike winning the lottery, you are in control. Doing these things will automatically make your days a lot brighter:
If you have a limitation due to an accident, you can lose yourself endlessly in how you could have prevented that accident. Thinking day in, day out with regret about such an impressive event makes no sense at all. Past cannot be changed, no matter how long you think about it. Try to find peace with reality and do not hold a grudge against the person who may have caused that accident, no matter how difficult that may be. If you let that go, you can heal and work on genuine happiness.
Be as independent as possible
Leaning on others may be unavoidable, but try to do what you can do yourself. Don’t give everything away. Try everything: from a new recipe to getting your driver’s license. Know that doing things on your own can make you immensely happy.
Embrace your individuality
If any mental physical or psychological disability you have, you may find it uncomfortable that you are always the one that faces it. But enjoy your uniqueness! Embracing yourself and genuinely believing in yourself makes you endlessly happier. People remember you faster because you are not like everyone else. Life is too short to doubt yourself. A handicap can make life harder, but it also makes you a unique survivor that deserves to be seen.
Try to discover your abilities after accepting your disability
Going through any disability will make you feel that you are less important than other human beings. You feel like you are not equal to your other family members or friends and thousands of other negative thoughts rise blocking your mind in the way of success. But at that point, you need to Remember God can’t do injustice to you. If you are disabled, then you might have other abilities that need to be discovered. So be strong and put all your energies to discover your abilities and lead a successful life.
Become good friends with people who understand you
No matter how sweet your “normal” friends are, sometimes you need someone who understands the struggles you’re going through. Complaining about someone about difficult paths when you are in a wheelchair, or talking about how complicated it is to find a nice date, works better than any therapeutic session.
Surround yourself with positive people
That is of course not possible every moment of the day, but try to gather as many people as possible around you that support you and that you like who you are. We all linger for too long in a friendship that only takes energy, instead of giving. It is not easy to ban people from your life, but negativity sucks the happiness out of you like a hungry vampire. Find people who grant you the best and who are happy with their own lives. They are your cheerleaders!
Find something that you are perfect at
Everyone can do something perfectly. Whether it is hand biking, wheelchair curling, makeup, writing or cooking. Try to discover what you are good at and what makes you proud. With a little luck, you can still earn money on that skill too! And winning extra pocket money is not only very helpful but also gives your confidence a nice boost.
It is tempting only to see the things that you cannot do if you have a disability. But by focusing less on yourself and helping others, you will return to a positive vibe. Set yourself up as a volunteer or mentor, visit the elderly in a nursing home or help out at a summer camp for children with disabilities. Doing something that is not about you can give you an explosion of happiness.
Bringing your body and blood circulation into motion causes a significant boost of endorphins. These are precisely the hormones that you need to feel happy. With disabilities, you may need a little more creativity if you want to exercise – not least because you get tired faster than others. Use a Wii, exercise with weights, go hand biking or wheelchair dancing and try to be active at least four times a week to enjoy the benefits of exercise. Try to find something that you like, if only to clear your head.